Heightened senses?

I was reading and I came across this point – yet another point that goes – Bang, Spot On to a griever’s feelings.

The fundamental change that a griever faces in life are questions and statements such as:

“I better do this now, I dont know when I may just pass on, or get a heart attack”

“Is this the last time I can see this person?”

“If I dont experience this now, I may never get to. Life is too short”

“This may be the last trip I make overseas”

OK, very morbid thoughts but yes, these thoughts are very real. Its stated in the book! And yes, I am guilty of the same thoughts, which are apparently due to the heightened senses of life and death. As I also know, us as well as many people tend to not think about death and happily go about their daily lives, sometimes making alot out of trivialities.

We will tend to show our emotions alot more, express more love and reduce taking people for granted. I am hoping Vern’s life has taught many of us to do exactly as I wrote above – and what I read in the book.

HOWever, the book goes on to say that after a period of time, we MAY go back to our ordinary thoughts on life. I DONT WANT TO! But I can tell its waning off slightly, and I try very hard to remind myself life is short, precious and every minute of the day COUNTS!!! every minute!!!


One thought on “Heightened senses?

  1. Sue-Ann,

    While drifting among some of the older posts on my own blog, one of the “Possibly related posts” at the bottom took me to this entry. I read this post, read the previous one, watched the movie it linked to, and immediately, my cheeks were soaked in tears.

    This past September, I lost one of the closest friends I’ve ever had, my senior year University roommate. We had been apart for only a few short months after I had gone back home to Canada following graduating, but we planned to meet again for some South-East Asian adventures this year (I had taken a teaching job in Singapore, where I’m currently at). At least that was our plan–fate had different plan when he fell in a Mountaineering accident on 23 September, 2009.

    Though Eliot is gone, he lives on in all those he touched; it sounds like Vern is doing the same in yourself and all those he knew. I feel you understand my thoughts when I say, “I don’t know ‘why’ I’m saying this…” When I read your entries, touching on the deep love and sense of loss for your brother, it woke up those same feelings I’ve had, but have been hiding as of late deep down inside. The grieving process ebbs and flows, and this was just a part of the cycle. Your words let me have a good cry, one of those cries that lets a little bit of the hurt go. But this cry wasn’t just for Eliot–this was also for Vern, and for you.

    If this brings back hurt and pain, I’m sorry, but I wanted to let you know that your beautiful, passionate words struck a chord, as if they touched my soul. I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. Sure, I lost a dear friend, but I can’t imagine what I would feel if I lost my own brother. But, I wanted you to know that your thoughts have just helped me move a little bit further forward with my own grieving. My deepest sympathies to you and your family, but also the sincerest of thanks for warming my heart with the love you’ve spoken of.


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